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r/Fencesitter

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A safe place for those who aren't sure whether they want to have kids, or not. Post and share stories for both sides, questions you may have, and anything else you can think of (applicable to the subject at hand).

Notice: This subreddit is not actively monitored, so the posts here are only a small subset of what exists on reddit.

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Questions Parenting Parent Reflections Fencesitter Anxiety Reading Childfree Q&A
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to r/Fencesitter by SirDingusAlot
3 months ago
I miss my ex
to r/Fencesitter by Top_Championship_991
5 months ago
Keep Going Back and Forth
to r/Fencesitter by mjspark
2 months ago
Spiritual Reasons
to r/Fencesitter by SecretPomegranate941
1 year ago
Queer parents, be honest, what is it like having a kid(s)?
Parenting
to r/Fencesitter by 0xAERG
9 months ago
ADHD and Fatherhood?
Questions
to r/Fencesitter by spacial_togetherness
1 year ago
My Perspective With a Six Month Old
to r/Fencesitter by xXUnicornPussyXx
7 months ago
Anybody a parent because their spouse wanted kids?
to r/Fencesitter by duckxduckxgoose
1 year ago
I never want to have kids and hes on the fence
to r/Fencesitter by khaheereya
1 year ago
I know what I want, but I also don’t know what I want
to r/Fencesitter by ScreenPrintWalrus
1 year ago
My partner is unsure about kids, and this affects everyone. How to navigate this?
Questions
to r/Fencesitter by astrdingleberry
3 months ago
Unsure about kids, but I also don’t have a large family and only have a small group of friends. Afraid of growing old, alone, with no loved ones.
Questions
to r/Fencesitter by SNORALAXX
1 year ago
Bodies
to r/Fencesitter by idontknowcheckreddit
3 months ago
We’re Too Practical & Logical; Craaap!
to r/Fencesitter by Jumpyropes
3 months ago
Any other fence sitters that are staunchly against birthing a child but unsure if they want to one day adopt?
Questions
to r/Fencesitter by SNORALAXX
1 year ago
Some thoughts on Regret
to r/Fencesitter by fellowtravelr
1 year ago
Is there a sub for regretful childfree people? Or those who stayed too long on the fence and had the choice made for them?
to r/Fencesitter by hecallsmedragon
10 months ago
Reading Suggestions (besides The Baby Decision)?
Reading
to r/Fencesitter by SNORALAXX
1 year ago
Fear of birth
to r/Fencesitter by stevemcrayz
3 months ago
Anyone on the fence think "is having children worth it"?
to r/Fencesitter by 3ll3girl
3 months ago
I am comforted by this realization: People who are happy before children are generally pretty happy after children. People who were miserable before children are generally still miserable after children. The way you take on life in general tends to be the same way you take on parenting.
to r/Fencesitter by hecallsmedragon
10 months ago
Two fencesitters in a relationship - one leans yes, the other leans no