Hello fellow fencesitters,

I'm a 33-year-old male grappling with a significant concern. I'm currently on the fence about having children, mostly due to my ADHD diagnosis. The unpredictability and constant attention required during an infant's first two years terrify me. The persistent crying, sudden outbursts, and midnight wake-up calls - I'm anxious about my ability to manage these challenges.

Yet, I find myself imagining how rewarding it might be to interact with my child once they're older. I visualize us having engaging conversations, bonding over shared interests, and experiencing life together in a way that's more suited to my capabilities and my condition. This thought brings me a sense of happiness and gives me hope.

I find myself in this conundrum where I am terrified by the early years but enthusiastic about the later ones. Are there any others here who have faced or are facing a similar situation, especially those with ADHD? Could you share your experiences, advice, or resources? I'm eager to understand how you've navigated or are considering navigating this complex situation.

Looking forward to read from you people.