Hello to all. For starters- I am a happy parent and in no way do I regret my children. They are amazing and I love them to pieces. I also can see that it's not for everyone and I support anyone who wants to be CF- including my own kids.

But as a middle-aged person I'm creeping up on some MidLife Crisis stuff that isn't child related. So I wanted to share my meditations on Regret.

No matter what- we will come across some feelings of regret in our lives. After my divorce I regretted marrying my ex (luckily not the father of my kids). While paying off my student debt I regretted by career field and degree. Right now I regret where we moved and I will likely have to give up the idea of having a farm someday.

The only way through these feelings are to acknowledge them then to focus on the positive. You have to really OWN the life you have chosen and make the best of it. Please note this doesn't come easily to me as I'm a fairly Eeyore chick but it is my goal. So like as I think about never owning a farm- I start to think OK that sucks BUT that means I can sleep in sometimes, and travel is easier, breaking ice buckets all winter is terrible etc. When I felt regret about marrying my ex I thought about what I had learned from the process.

Having kids or not will not shield you from Regret. So no matter what you decide- freaking OWN it and see the positive in it. I hope this makes sense and helps someone.