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r/ExperiencedENM

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A subreddit for in-depth discussion of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory without the same damn questions over and over.

Moderators

Updated Mar 3, 2025
u/basiliskgf Active
Added 3 years ago
u/Polyfuckery Active
Added 3 years ago
Also moderates: r/LegoBDSM
u/Divacowgirl Active
Added 3 years ago

Subreddit Rules

Updated Aug 20, 2024
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Submissions only from experienced ENM & poly users

This subreddit was created to avoid the types of questions that users on /r/polyamory and /r/nonmonogamy see all the time - it is a good thing that there are spaces for new people to learn how to do relationships differently, but this isn't it.

We define experienced as having at least one previous non-monogamous relationship and/or practicing it for at least a year (dating either in an open relationship or as a solo poly person).

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No bigotry

Absolutely no bigotry or intolerance. This includes (but is not limited to) attacks on anyone's gender or sexual identity, racism, sexism, slut shaming, poly-shaming, mocking, and victim blaming.

Posts and comments that contain any of the above, regardless of intent, will be removed.

First offense may be a warning, but depending on the severity and the user's history in the subreddit, it may be an immediate ban. Second offense is a guaranteed ban.

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to r/ExperiencedENM by GogoFrenchFry
5 days ago
Dealing with anxiety
to r/ExperiencedENM by wawaamn
2 weeks ago
Don’t know where else to turn?
to r/ExperiencedENM by Reasonable_Bet7600
2 weeks ago
Solopoly - sad pattern
to r/ExperiencedENM by MrMan467
3 weeks ago
Dealing with pangs of jealousy
to r/ExperiencedENM by Live_Security9653
3 weeks ago
Helpful advice with Relationship Agreement
to r/ExperiencedENM by findyourpersons
1 month ago
Any experience with dating online as poly?
to r/ExperiencedENM by PancitCanton4
1 month ago
My wife and I discovered we love Truth or Dare, but I didn't like any of the list I found. I made a mega-sheet of Truth or Dare options!
to r/ExperiencedENM by useme__asupls
2 months ago
I am very lost and confused. Experienced people, Please help
to r/ExperiencedENM by TheBestOpossum
2 months ago
Update: Come out to Dad? 3 years later
to r/ExperiencedENM by schic55
2 months ago
living separate but still together?
to r/ExperiencedENM by Equivalent-Two259
2 months ago
Help, trying to figure this out
to r/ExperiencedENM by sourcream_donut
3 months ago
Change in style of polyamory over time
to r/ExperiencedENM by Fun_Adeptness_6765
3 months ago
Need Advice from ENM Community!
to r/ExperiencedENM by greg9strat
3 months ago
Casual encounters leads to anxiety
to r/ExperiencedENM by PolyChrissyInNYC
3 months ago
📌🖤Final NYC Poly Cocktails of 2024!🖤📌
to r/ExperiencedENM by matte_kudasai_
3 months ago
What do you think about the phenomenon of ghosting in ENM?
to r/ExperiencedENM by deepestblueA6
3 months ago
Therapy and Polyamory
to r/ExperiencedENM by PolyChrissyInNYC
3 months ago
📌🖤 November 2024 NYC Poly Cocktails this Monday on the LES🖤📌
to r/ExperiencedENM by Loved_Bayou
4 months ago
Navigating the ENM relationship world
to r/ExperiencedENM by HannahOCross
4 months ago
Breakup while falling for someone new?
to r/ExperiencedENM by PolyChrissyInNYC
4 months ago
📌🖤 October 2024 NYC Poly Cocktails confirmed!🖤📌
to r/ExperiencedENM by FunCell5779
4 months ago
Buzzer going off…
to r/ExperiencedENM by unknownblackbird
5 months ago
Unfair or not?
to r/ExperiencedENM by Rel_Decisions_Lab
5 months ago
Paid Study for Sexually Non-Monogamous Couples
to r/ExperiencedENM by iQueLocoI
6 months ago
When/how do you decide to advance a relationship?