I know that these answers are going to be wildly different between individuals, and I expect answers to be more qualitative than quantitative. I'm working on figuring out my own standard because it needs tweaking.

I dated a guy for a whole year waiting for him to want to advance it to romance. He never did, and I realized it was not good for me to wait around offering myself to somebody who didn't know if they'd ever want me.

I've been dating another guy for three months who is a very good partner, but let's himself get abused by his other partners. I have been waiting for him to learn how to set boundaries and get to a healthy place, and while I didn't get hurt, it didn't serve my real needs.

The lesson I have learned is "Just because something isn't bad for you doesn't mean it's good for you." And I think three months is around the time when I can recognize if something is good for me or not.

What do you guys think? Permission to be as objective or anecdotal as you want. Be concise or rant, I want to see what other people think.