I'm curious to know the opinions of people in this sub about ghosting within the context of ENM, as I recently got ghosted and this experience prompted a lot of questions in me.

I practice solo ENM, and I recently started seeing a second person. This person (who was texting all the time and declaring themselves super eager to see me again and have sex and do other things together) stood me up and disappeared on what should had been our third date. After a few hours of delay, I texted if everything was okay (I genuinely thought something bad could've happened), but never received a reply. So I guess I've been ghosted 😅 which is whatever, to be honest, I'm not hurting or anything like that, but I'm very confused.

How is ghosting compatible with ENM? Communication to me is e v e r y t h i n g. I'm tempted to send a text along those lines, like, you can tell me you lost interest, it's not a problem, but I'm afraid to sound pathetic and look like I'd like to reconnect, which I'm really not interested in. How would you deal with this situation? And in general, what do you think about the phenomenon of ghosting in ENM?