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Looking for a hookup / swingers / sex
User is a swinger, not poly, and is looking for a hookup or FWB arrangement.
Seeking hookup / swinging / sex
User is a swinger, not poly, and is looking for a hookup or FWB arrangement.
18 years of age and older
This subreddit is 18+. Do not post, comment, or PM OPs if you or your partner(s) are under the age of 18. Lying about your age, or someone elseโs age, will result in a permanent ban.
Seeking an affair partner
User is seeking an affair partner
Must be aligned with polyamory
Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, ethical romantic relationships with more than one person with the informed consent of all partners involved. Posts indicating that OP is seeking hookups, FWB situations, or anything other than an ethical polyamorous relationship will be removed.
Attempting to sell content/services
User is attempting to sell content or services.
No unicorn hunting or harem building
Posts from couples or groups seeking a single man, woman, or other individual are allowed. However, posts or comments that can be construed as seeking or promoting relationships where unethical or unfair rules or expectations will be placed on a new partner are not allowed. Posts or comments seeking closed triads, closed throuples, or seeking an individual who is expected to be romantically involved with both/all parties in the existing relationship will be removed.
Repeated posting
Do not post more than one every 7 days
No hate or disrespect
Threats, harassment, abuse, bigotry, misogyny, misandry, and intolerance are not allowed. This includes, but is not limited to, attacks on gender or sexual identity, racism, sexism, slut shaming, mocking, and attacks on political or religious beliefs.
Vulgar or disrespectful posts or comments
This is not an NSFW subreddit. Keep posts and comments clean and respectful.
No vulgarity or NSFW content
Vulgarity and NSFW content are not allowed. Thereโs nothing inherently wrong with sex, kinks, fetishes, and BDSM. However, posts and comments explaining the details of your sexual anatomy, favorite sexual positions, details and/or lists of kinks or fetishes, etc. will be removed. You can indicate that you are into BDSM and encourage people to DM you about the details.
Unicorn Hunting
User is seeking a โunicornโ
No spam
You are allowed to post once every 7 days, with the exception of correction posts following an Automod removal. If you are found to be repeatedly deleting your post history in an attempt to circumvent this rule, it may result in a permanent ban. For clarification, spam includes copy-pasted and cross-posted ads from other subreddits.
No Trolling or unsolicited discussion
There are a multitude of dynamics and ways to practice polyamory, and not everyone will agree on everything. Do not clutter up posts with unsolicited information. For education and discussions about polyamory, please visit r/Polyamory. If you believe someone is breaking a rule, please report the behavior and/or contact the mod team.
No personal or confidential information
Posting personal or confidential information about yourself or others in public is not allowed. If you wish to provide contact information for yourself, please do so in a DM.
No seeking relationships for others
Posts seeking relationships for someone other than yourself, or you and your partner(s), are not allowed. If your friend or partner is seeking a relationship separately, they must make the submission themselves.
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