Hey all, just wanted to talk through some feels. As title suggests, a partner I adore had a real life date after an abusive situation. We have been seeing each other for about 4 months and her last relationship lasted 3 years and was pretty toxic. I'm having mixed feelings about her dating, I am happy for her to get out and have positive experiences to heal her trauma. I also have my own insecurities from being in LDR (it's a preferred way of dating for me) and the other person cutting things off or ghosting because of meeting someone local. My partner knows this and is very open to hearing my fears and reassuring me that while yes, she had a fun time with this person, and it could lead to more fun and possible intimacy...he is not me and he's not some magical better person who fits her like a glove. She loves me and doesn't want to lose anything about me, and wants to close the gap when we can.

I for one worry about "ruining" thing for us by not being as okay as I want to be, that I might force myself to be "comfortable" when I still have some work to do with feeling secure. She's the first person to really "hear" me, and I want to do the work to be happy she's healing and not be envious of the people who get physical time with her. Even with that physical time, she still wants me. That is so...just nice to know for once. If anyone has advice to share, I would love it. We do communicate a lot and we mean the world to each other.