Hi All,

First time Post and poly-newb which I'm sure is everyone's favourite!

So, I'm 40(m), my wife (33f) and I have been together 10y, married 4y and have a daughter (5).

My wife has recently discussed our relationship becoming polyamorous.

During our discussions and my own research I've realised that I've always used monogamy as a kind of shield against being hurt.

I love my wife for who she us and have no desire to 'squash' any aspect of herself. I also see polyamory as a very healthy way to live and believe humans are not wired to be monogamous.

I guess where I'm going with this us that my head and heart are open to poly but I still get the old pang of "I'm not good enough" She's going to love someone more than me" very "teenage" fears (no offence intended). I fel like I'm wading through 40 years of social conditioning and Disney movie romance fantasies.

How does one deal with unwanted or irrational reactions when opening up?

Thank you in advance, I'm at work so may not be able to reply immediately.

Edit: removed wording that described poly as an orientation.