This isn’t about a partner, this is about me. I want to start practicing relationship anarchy better as I continue to move forward and work towards my goals and aspirations. I’ve been doing the research and working on myself a lot but I still have problems where I a romantic partner will start to consume my thoughts too much.

It’s not their fault, and i know a lot of it has to do with unsolved codependency issues and the anxious attachment style I’ve have been working to unlearn. And i really want to just focus on my goals and allow the relationships that come into my life fit in where they do and not prioritize someone too much to where I don’t realize that I’m losing myself again in it.

Im looking for things to read that you would recommend or maybe some different strategies of how to work on this. Because I want this but I want to make sure I am reading and consuming sources that would be the most beneficial to me from others who have gone through it.

Thank you