My wife and I (FF) opened a while ago and although we have had the normal ups and downs, we are mostly happy and also happy to learn.

When initially discussing ENM, the thought of her overnighting somewhere else freaked me out so much that I asked her if we could try to avoid it if we can. She happily agreed and my meta is also an AMAZING woman (polyamorous) who we both know really well and who is taking things really slowly and being super sweet and patient.

After they started dating, I've realised that asking for no sleepovers was really selfish of me and that it's obviously a ME problem that should forsure not be a THEM problem. I want to work through my discomfort with this before it even comes up and potentially causes them discomfort.

I would love some advice, some book or article or video recommendations and also some feedback from others who have experienced this.

I am already going through all the disentanglement information and it's giving me some ideas to put into practice. It would, however, be nice to have some personal perspectives and real life, experienced advice.

Thank you 🖤