After overcoming a conservative background I have finally begun to learn who I am and accept myself. I came out to my husband as pan about 2 years ago. Shortly after I did he suggested that if I wanted to have a chance to explore that side of myself after repressing it so long I was free to do so. Now that we are both opening our minds to new “rules” every single day we have expressed a mutual interest in polyamory. I feel like I have overcome the issues I used to carry with jealousy. Our relationship has an entirely new definition to me and the nature of my feelings towards him feel altered and entirely new. Stronger. After sitting on it for so long I can no longer delay admitting that this is something I do very much think I want. How can I know for sure? The only issue I can pinpoint within myself is that I believe I would struggle with adding another “mom” figure for my kids. Is that a worry that I should kind of “cross when I come to it” so to speak?

I appreciate any and all responses. I’ve read about the dreaded “unicorn hunter” and I’m terrified that given how recently I embraced my sexuality I may subconsciously fall into that category, hence the amount of time I’ve spent mulling it over.