My partner, Cedar, and I have been dating for a couple of months. I have a long-term nesting partner. So I chose to date someone who also has a longtime partner.

My meta, Maple, has found our overnights to be difficult. I knew about this because she reached out for reassurance one evening when we are together.

It seemed like things were better after we met a few times. But a few days ago, Maple had a panic attack during our date and threatened self-harm. Obviously, Cedar went home to ensure that Maple was safe.

This extreme reaction had never happened before to Maple, and it's not the first time my partner has dated. Maple has her own long-term partner, Ash, and actively dates others.

I've only met Maple a couple of times, so we were becoming friendly, but we aren't close.

Cedar shared with me that he was going to find a therapist for them to work with. I've accepted the fact that we probably have to pause for a while, but we haven't spoken about next steps yet.

I also have attachment trauma and was a mess when my primary partner started dating, so I have a lot of empathy about this situation.

I wanted to share some resources with her but thought better of it, because I don't want to overstep.

Any words of advice would be appreciated.