Currently I (23NB) have three partners that I have been dating for a variety of time. I have been dating my partner, Sai (22NB), for two years. My girlfriend, Nicolas (23F), on and off for two years but recently we have been on for about four months. And finally me and my girlfriend, Emma (24F) have recently started dating barely last week.

Me and my nesting partner practice KTP and often hang out with our other partners together or in group settings. Because of this, Me, Sai, Emma, Nicolas all would hang out together and in some struck of luck everyone ended up sorta digging each other. As of right now the only people who don’t have a relationship with each other are Sai and Nicolas and that’s because they’re exes who haven’t rly worked out their past relationships shit when Me, Sai, and Nicolas were in a throuple together.

I’m not sure if explaining everyone’s dynamic in the group would be helpful or just more confusing but basically, through private conversations with each of my partners, I found that they all are happily poly saturated with the current relationships they have formed with the other members of the polycule.

Because of this I brought up the idea to the group to start a closed polycule where we only date each other since everyone seems very comfortable with the current dynamics. Outside of the initial conversation where I brought it up, we haven’t talked about it as a group again.

I’m wondering if anyone has any advice in handling the dynamics of a closed quad. Also how to go about negotiating a relationship like this seeing as everyone might have different boundaries and everyone’s relationship dynamic is a bit different. Should this be done in private between each individual couple or more group discussions?