I was until may of this year in a relationship with a married couple i started the relationship with the wife a month before the husband and it ended due to abuse from the wife, recently i have had a pretty severe crush on a new girl (yes shes poly and yes she knew i had the crush and was waiting to be at a point in therapy that i felt i could enter into a new relationship) and she started dating someone the fact that she was now dating someone caused over the course of Saturday memories of that first month to come flooding back and caused me to spiral as im pretty certain that the wife had been grooming me to replace her so she could abbandon myself and her husband. The return of these memories has lead to me no longer being able to trust my crush purely because shes in a relationship and it crushes my heart. I will be talking to my therapist about this on wednesday but i want to know if anyone has had any similar experiences and if there was anything that helped you get over the issue ??