Now I’ve been in poly relationships before, always initiated by the other and I just found that they don’t work for me. This is the longest relationship I’ve had, going on 2 years now, and I’m doing college full time and work full time. So I understand that our time together is limited. This doesn’t bother me because I know I’ll see him again soon, but it bothers him greatly and he’s threatened to break up many times before. So when he asked to be open I wondered if it was just an excuse to see other people since I don’t meet his needs. But we talked about it and he said it would benefit both of us, although I barely have time for one person much less two. So I told him he can be poly but I’m staying monogamous. But I’m having second thoughts. Should I just be poly too? So there’s no feeling of jealousy or feeling like an option? Because I want him to be happy but I also still fear that he just wants to be with someone else and this is his round-about way of breaking up with me without him being alone. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.