I sometimes wonder how many of us ‘officially’ are in polyamorous (or more general ENM) relationships, but who are de facto monogamous.

Are you currently this way?

And if so - why?

Are you saturated with one partner? Do your partner’s reactions to the possibility of you getting with other people make it more effort than it would be worth? Are you lacking confidence? Overworked? Standards just reaaaaaally high?

I am very curious…

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Edit: oops, sorry I should have said “de facto practising monogamy” rather than, “de facto monogamous.” My error.

I did mean it in a relatively tongue-in-cheek way because PINO is obviously a jokey kind of concept, but I’m mainly just curious as to the reasons why some of us do all the work of negotiating polyamorous setups and then only date one person. Hope that didn’t confuse anyone too much!