I’m fairly new to polyamory (about two years) and have been exploring what works for and resonates with me. At this point I’m most comfortable with solo, non-hierarchical, parallel polyamory. I’m okay with meeting my metas but I don’t really care for my partners meeting theirs. Not that I’m necessarily against it, I just don’t have any desire in that happening and neither do my other partners.

I recently started dating someone who’s leans more into hierarchical and ktp. He’s looking for a primary partner and sees that potential in me. Is it possible to continue the relationship with our preferences being almost the complete opposite? Will it be hard on him if he considers me his primary and I don’t consider anyone to be mine? I know that this is a discussion I need to have with him but I’m curious what other people’s experiences are.