So I see people here writing about dating mono(or not) people and telling them they are poly on the date and the other person either is thinking about it or has dropped them. What I am wondering is how is that ok? I am used to put it as the first thing in dating apps and if I start texting someone or dating without going through apps I say that right away on the first interaction, either text or I drop it through the conversation if I am at a bar or whatever. I feel dirty if I don't but apparently some people don't? Is it just me? Isn't it a bit catfishing otherwise? Hoping they get interested enough to be open to you being poly even if they are not? Help me understand.