Hello! I’m (26F) and currently single and I’ve never been in a polyamorous relationship before. I’ve been with people who are polyamorous but we were, by mutual decision, in a closed relationship. I’m talking to someone (32F) who’s poly and has three long distance partners who sound interesting. We’ve met a few times and it’s been wonderful and electric every time and I have an ever-growing crush on her. I want to get to keep learning who she is and I want it to become a committed relationship down the line.

My confusion comes from not knowing what the etiquette is. We’re not in a relationship so technically I can talk to whoever else I want. But I also want to invest in this and see where it goes while keeping open and honest communication. They may be going on dates with other people at the moment and I know they did around our first couple of dates at least, which is cool. I’ve got crushes on a couple of other people that I don’t think would be realistic anyway. But I hear the dating apps calling me again while also being interested in her.

Do I still date around a bit and maybe find a second partner or let that impulse go for a while and see where this leads?