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Hi everyone. I’m just curious if others experiences. I was in a polyamorous relationship for about 6/7 years (together for 9). We are no longer together and I’ve been seeing someone for a little over two years. I’m not currently practicing polyamory, but I find myself applying a lot of the things I learned while I was in a polyamorous relationship. For those in a similar situation, what are some of your favorite takeaways from having a polyamorous relationship?
So I have been poly for ~20 years or so and up until fairly recently I identified as poly. I'm definitely still not a monogamous person but I've definitely drifted away from the label of poly and I think I could see being happier in a more monogamous context.
My takeaways have been:
Communication is a constant, ongoing process that is vital to the health of any relationship, mono or poly.
Rupture is inevitable in every relationship. What matters is repair and how that's handled.
Compersion is a critical skill for relationship success, be it mono or poly.
Loving or at least accepting yourself is foundational to the idea of being healthy in a relationship.
Jealousy is an "alarm" emotion, letting you know there's a deeper problem that needs to be handled and investigated.
It's ok to not have one single person meet all of your needs.
It is not ok to forego needs that can't be met by that one person to sustain the relationship.
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