I think ive come up with some boundaries for myself. But i don't want them to come off as controlling or demands. Do you mind reading through them and telling me what you think?

1. I value our one on one time & would like it to be just about us, not Meta. If you talk about Meta i will remove myself from the conversation. ( Someone on an older post of mine put this in a comment and it spoke to me. )

2. If you deside to have this person in our home, I will not come home until they have left.

3. If you deside to have this person sleep in our bed i will also not want to be home. It will take me several days to feel safe enough to sleep in bed with you. I would ask that they do not sleep on my side.

4. If you deside to have sex in our bed. I will no longer feel safe having sex in that bed. I am not sure at this time what it would take me to feel okay to have sex in that bed again.

Edit we have one sherd bed. Someone mentioned that its getting clouded.