In regards to recent conversations about the types of discussions on this subreddit, I hope I’m allowed to post my opinion like this.

I’ve commented in this subreddit a few times now. And I read many of its posts, multiple days a week, since March basically, so I’m seeing many of the stories and conversations here. I’m a “poly-hesitant but open-minded” spouse of a 10 year monogamous marriage, like so many other people who post and comment here.

I just wanted to say that I appreciate whatever the status quoa is, where people are free to come in and ask annoying newbie questions, and established poly folk are free to spend their time (or not) to engage as they see fit. It’s actually helpful to see similar conversations playing out over and over again, different variations of “I’ve been struggling to tell my partner I want / don’t want poly, I’m not sure,” because each time the conversation does dig into fundamentals about identity, autonomy, consent, communication, honesty, boundaries vs agreements; all really important stuff to consider. It helps to see these ideas discussed frequently with variations based on individual circumstances. It’s helpful context to know about other people’s experiences. Personally, it helped me get over some grief at being “poly-bombed” to see so many other people’s stories here (it helped me see the neutral and positive aspects of how my partner brought it up, compared to some other more extreme stories I’ve seen). Overall, getting to read newbie stories and advice here is helping me navigate “the work” a bit easier. So let that be a plea for keeping the subreddit as open/inclusive as it is, even if repetition is annoying to some folks. Edit: typo.