Morning everyone,

I was wondering what were the steps that some of you took in order to "get back on your feet" following a real toxic relationship with your Meta.

For 2 years, my wife was in a relationship with this girl that managed to brainwashed my wife into "finding men disgusting", hoping that she would leave me for her, always managing to come back when my wife would try to break things up, etc. All of this affected me in some indirect ways, but with therapy, self care, and support from my wife and friends, I managed to slowly get some of my mood back on.

Of course my wife was more affected by all of this, and thankfully a few months later, she met this girl who's the complete opposite of her ex, and really helped fully forgot about all this toxicity (she would had probably just come back to her ex if it wasnt for the new girl).

While Im truly happy for my wife, I cant help but feel parts of this "weight/effect" of that past relationship still affecting me and my mood. Now, before anyone ask, this new relationship doesnt affect me one bit to be honest. I dont feel any worst, but I know I can feel better, and its 100% because of the residue of that past relationship. Both wife and meta are aware of it, and are fully supporting and always ask if I need anything, the thing is that Im sure precisely "what" is needed.

So im asking if you any of you felt that way from a past Meta, and what did you do to get out of it. Asked the NP for more support? Worked more on yourself? Just let time heal things?

Have a great rest of day

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