Hey, just asking your opinion about something.

I have multiple partners one of which I've been dating for about 4 mos

At the beginning of last month I wanted to give this new partner oral without a condom. I had never done it before so he said he wanted me to get tested cause it might bring an STD into his polycule.

I didn't even know I could give him an STD by performing oral, but I decided to get tested and show him my negative results

2 weeks after this discussion i show him the results and he says he needs to ask his gf for permission. Apparently she always agrees but she needs to know if he has unprotected sex with someone. Specifically she needs to know the details such as in this case that he's the receiver of oral.

So he had seen her the day before and I wondered why he didn't ask her already since he knew it was something I wanted to do. But I didn't say anything cause I didnt want to be naggy

Because of LDR they would have met again in 3 weeks and he wanted to announce it to her in person so I had to wait for him to travel to see her before I could finally do it. So it took me about a month before being able to give him oral. I found it a bit excessive cause he could have called her imo, but I didn't say anything cause I didn't want to start a fight over something so irrelevant

Now though this has me thinking. I absolutely agree safe sex is important but isn't his behaviour a bit excessive? I would trust my partner to check for STD results from metas I don't need to give permission to perform each specific act.

I know wveryone is different tho, so im curious about your opinion

EDIT: Not upset about having to show results just skeptical of the gf part