Hello, guys! I’ve been reading some posts from people new on poly and they have been receiving such helpful and comforting comments, so I thought it wouldn’t hurt to make a post myself.

I’ll try to be brief but I’m going to answer any questions you have and discuss further issues.

If I’m in the wrong, please tell me. If I’m not doing anything wrong, please also tell me lol

Me and and my boyfriend are both 23y and have started an open relationship in 2019, but because of the pandemic, we didn’t really live the “open” part of it until this very year. This is the second relationship for both of us, and until now we hadn’t seen anyone else.

Thing is, I’ve always asked us to take it slow because I wasn’t sure if an open relationship was right for me, he was ok with it (I thought). I call it an open relationship and not completely polyamory because we want to have a romantic relationship and compromise just between ourselves, but have experiences with other people.

After a lot of conversations and experimenting hanging out and making out with other people, we saw we were pretty ok with that. Actually, we are happy for each other when we get dates with other people!

The problem is, my boyfriend wants to have sex with other people. I don’t want that for me and I can’t handle him hooking up with other people. We tried. It was the worst feeling I’ve ever felt. He said he wants to try to have an open relationship in which sex to other people is out of the question, but he really wants to have sexual experiences outside just the two of us.

My question is: is it ok for me to look for a relationship like this? If not with my current boyfriend, with anyone? I love him very much, but I know my limits and I don’t want him stuck in a relationship he isn’t satisfied with. Am I looking for an open relationship arrangement that is not actually feasible?

Thanks in advance!

P.S.: I want to make clear this is NOT about OPP. Is any form of sex, with anyone.