Found out that my wife of 6 years has been having an affair for 3 years last summer. I suspected it back in 2021 after seeing a text message by chance. How can people lie for that long and then when they finally get caught, trickle out the truth? At first it was just meaningless compliments, then emotional support, then now kissing. Maybe in a month she will finally tell me that they had sex. She tells me little by little what the truth is. It’s just so stupid. I never wanted to get married and now I feel like I was correct. The modern world is not set up for marriage. The craziest thing about this is that we were in therapy for me to work on things while she was doing that. She was blaming me. Like I needed to be more x, y or z. And I was trying. It all seems so stupid and pointless. I regret putting any effort whatsoever into this. We have a 10 month old. I feel like marriage is a relic of the past. It works when you live on a farm and have 10 kids and die at 35. It doesn’t work in today’s world. I’m hurt so obviously I’m speaking from pain but it’s hard to believe in anything anymore. I’ve never cheated on anyone. I just don’t understand it. Just end it first. Why can’t they just end it first. It’s so stupid. I would appreciate any feedback or comments or even chat from anybody with any insight or even if you want to share your story so I don’t feel alone that would help too.