Need some guidance from those fat along the process.

I’m no longer doing the pick me dance, those feelings have now been replaced by anger sometimes. In the anger I feel even after everything that she has done she hasn’t taken responsibility and continued to lie to me and others, trying to paint herself as not fully to blame or hiding some horrific acts.

I keep getting the urge to write a letter to say I know the truth and I don’t forgive her. She has a fragile ego where she can’t stand being unliked. We met 2 weeks ago and I mean…. after abandoning me broke in a house we just bought making up false accusations and taking joint savings, spending it and not repaying my share as one example…she didn’t once ask what she could do to make amends. No….. she asked if my family hate her. She’s the Queen of manipulation and our last convo I found myself gas light and being nice to her.

I feel like I had to bite my tongue throughout the relationship and the drama. She has a way of avoiding being held accountable.

I want to write a letter and send it to her explaining exactly what she did wrong and the damage she caused.

I should mention she is guilty about what she’s done but hasn’t been truthful about the whole story and expects forgiveness which I think is for her own internal sense of shame. I also have no intention of this letter being an in, I logically realise this girl is a disaster and not my future… so why do I have such a strong urge to confront her for her actions?

Bad idea? I feel if I don’t I have to internalise it all. But I’m aware after reading this sub it just doesn’t help?

Any tips of advice to help me heal from this urge?

EDIT: Thank you so much everyone, I really needed this. I know there are a lot of posts about this already, I usually do search for them but am new to this sub so didn’t even think to do it. It’s exactly what I needed to hear and research as it felt like the last barrier I couldn’t overcome. I had a real good day today after reading all of these comments. Like a weight has been lifted. It really is time to move forward with my life and not allow her to live rent free in my mind.

I also just had a realisation….. it’s easy to get caught up in thoughts that are just endless, thinking about them just reinforces them. It’s been a very lonely scary experience but I just had the thought…. You are exactly where you need to be 😀