my closest friend has always been a pretty awful communicator when it comes to texting and calling, but that wasn't as big of an issue when we went to the same college. this past semester, i transferred to a different school and our communication has become much worse. she'll go 10-14 days without reaching out, or will not respond to my messages on instagram even though she's posting on her stories. i don't think she means anything malicious or is trying to send some signals by not reaching out as much, but it still breaks my heart.

this is all compounded by the fact that she has become very close with my ex-girlfriend since i've left school. obviously, i don't control who she's friends with but it definitely hurts seeing her be so close with my ex and it makes me feel like i've been replaced in some ways.

it's difficult to know whether i'm justified in my frustrations or whether i'm letting my mental illness get the best of me. it's just hard to go from talking every day at school to not talking at all. i've brought it up a few times over the past months and she feels sorry about it but thinking about her right now only brings me frustration and sadness.

i'd love some advice on both how to communicate with her in a more effective and healthy way, and how to not take these lapses in communication so personally.

tl;dr: my best friend will go 2 weeks without talking to me since i've transferred and it makes me sad, especially since she's close with my ex now