i (19f) met a guy (20m) this summer and we went on a few dates (platonic) but ended up developing feelings for each other. he left to go back to college and we kept in touch.

he didn’t want to date me. he kept saying it wasn’t the right time/situation or that he didn’t want to hurt me but would never explain what he meant. i liked him a lot and left it at that. he also didn’t want to be exclusive but would tell me he could see us being married one day.

fast forward to the current holiday season and he’s back in town. i’m excited to see him but something feels off due to his recent texting pattern and usage of certain words/phrases he didn’t usually use as well as body language.

he admits to having a sexual relationship with a girl on campus for a year. i’m not even sure if i can feel upset since to him we are nothing and i’m stuck because i liked him so much. it feels like i have been led on and it things are so awkward between us.