I’ve been texting a woman for 2 (almost 3) years (no FaceTime, Skype, in person, streaming movies together, nothing; which is itself bothersome to me). She lives in another country and 3 time zones away. We’ve discussed her eventually relocating closer in the past and planned to meet now that borders have reopened after covid and we have improved our own finances a bit. She sprang on me tonight that she wants to not go back when she comes to visit. I’m not sure how to respond. On the one hand I do care for her and have been emotionally exclusive for about 2 years now. I am not OPPOSED to her relocating, but under the circumstances it feels fast and I live in an area with a HIGH cost of living, so I assume she’d want to live with me, again, not opposed to the idea, but if feels FAST and I’m trying to figure out how to say that without making it seem like I’m scared to commit or welcome her into my physical life. I see this working out long term, but it feels like something that we should be easing into after seeing each other a few times or having virtual dates for a while.