how do I get past those thought?

no one is perfect and there will always be a greener pasture, but these thought keep coming back

there is stuff that arent perfect but not deal breaker

she vapes, she smoke weed daily to sleep, she lives a bit too far and wanna stay there, adhd a bit, she told me she pays debit sometime because shes not sure how much room is left on her credit card, she often likes to just chill and hangout, while i prefer to have something to do, at least chill and hangout around a boardgame, not just looking at the sky...,its fun I like it but for 20min max...she likes to order wine at the restaurent, which i feel is just plain fiscality irresponsible, those cost 70$ a bottle after tax and tips.. thats the same cost as the 2main course 1 entree...

i mean none of those thing feel "big" or rly worth looking elsewhere, so why do I keep having thought of I could do better?