Hey Reddit

Ive come to realize i made a big mistake refer to my past post if you are interested.

To make a long story short she went from texting me at the end of the night ilysm. I texted her back something like im so thankful to have met you out billions of people.

The next day i could help but have this feeling maybe i am moving way to fast. That night we were being flirty hand holding even gave her a foot massage in front of everyone. As the night went on i tried to kiss her in front of our friends tbh it was the right moment. That moment just kept replying in my head.

She then texted me a text saying i made her uncomfortable she doesn’t see me romantically and to lets just be friends.

I apologized telling her that wasnt my intention that i was very anxious and sorry for that night that i value our friendship and i will see her around. I left it open ended i just wanted some space my feelings were just hurt. She responded that i shouldnt take it to that extreme that we should stay friends.

I didnt reply two days later she texted me are we really not going to be friends? And finally the next day she sent a text saying she was disappointed how i was handling this as friends that she shouldnt be the one reaching out when i was the one who made her uncomfortable we should talk this out that i was important to her and she loved supporting me.

These last few texts gave me ptsd vibes as someone who has dealt with someone that has ptsd. I figured it best to let things cool off before i reach back out.

A week later i got a text from a mutual friend that lives in the same complex saying if everything was ok so and so is going through some things and mentioned she was upset were you guys are at. I felt bad decided to bite the bullet and texted her i just needed some space sorry for not replying sooner and id like to talk in person.

She told our mutual friend she would text me back but she didnt and was still upset. I sent a text a few days ago saying i understand if its difficult to talk to me right now that i wont take it personal and i am here for her in whatever shape she sees fit. She still has not responded.

Ive come to find out she was in abusive relationship a year ago. She has never told me this and now im starting to suspect we moved to fast and she may have freaked out and by me not responding she may have felt abandoned or i will be. Back in february we had an argument were i had blocked her but a diff mutual friends brought us back together….things were great until now granted we started things slow.

So thats the story deep inside i know i gota walk but i cant help but feel bad we were friends for 4 years initially she was flirty and basically could tell she liked me but I was not interested in her in that way at the time