27F 32M

We both moved to the current state we live in for jobs. I met him a year after I lived here, and he had just moved. We moved in pretty quickly (after like 8 months) because of Covid but had a lot of compatibility so it felt right.

Now, when I think about my future, I want to be closer to my family. Right now they are a 4.5 hour flight away and that is truly too far for me and I’ve been within planes distance from them for 10 years. Way too long.

When I have a family I envision my flight to be at least quicker, like 2 hours max, so I can book a little weekend trip if I want family time.

He doesn’t see himself moving to the areas that I see myself moving. The problem I see is, it would actually make us closer to BOTH of our families so to me it’s a win win. It’s not like he has family here in our current state of residence, and to be honest he doesn’t have many friends either. He also always complains about the heat and the politics. It’s truly just for his job I’m pretty sure. I just don’t see what else he “loves” about where we currently live.

I don’t know what to do. We’ve had heated discussions about this the past week resulting in crying and just overall bad energy in our relationship. I know if I moved I wouldn’t want to for another like 2-3 years so it’s not like I’m trying to move right now but I also want to know where we stand in this relationship.

Is there any hope for this? I feel like I’m just waiting for him to change his mind but idk if that will ever happen. My sisters husband felt the same but he eventually moved with her closer to our family and he loves it now. But I know not everyone is the same.

I guess this is mostly a vent post but I just feel so heartbroken already because if he really doesn’t ever want to move, I know this won’t work out.

TLDR; I (27F) want to eventually move somewhere closer to my family (willing to still be a 2 hour max flight away) because I’ve been away from them for 10 years. My boyfriend(32M) of 2.5 years doesn’t see himself moving to any of the areas I want to live in. I’m worried about the future and just overall not feeling so great 😒