Basically the title. I was really close friends with someone in highschool. Both of us had feelings for each other, but neither of us acted on it. Eventually we realized this, and it became a bit awkward between us. Then, over a year we slowly drifted apart because I started college and she had her applications. I was also a bad texter so we fizzled out.

I found out that she was going to the same school as me so I reached out to her to congratulate her. Our friend groups overlapped a lot so I thought it would be best to rekindle a friendship.

Instead, I shocked to find out that she had no interest in being friends, and had said that I made her very uncomfortable and was very creepy. Allegedly, I objectified her body, and said things to her that made her self esteem plummet. I reason I say allegedly is that I have no recollection of this happening nor can I find anything in our messages to support that. However, this person isn’t the type of person to lie about things like this so I must’ve have done this which is so appalling to me. I could have never imagined that I was capable of such behavior.

What really hurt me was the way she talked to me. She sounded she was talking to a sexual harasser/incel. She even said to not worry about my reputation since she won’t say anything which broke me even more. I wanted to apologize and I did but even I knew it sounded insincere because I don’t remember doing any of that, and how could I apologize sincerely if I don’t know if I did something awful.

As narcissistic as this sounds, i can help but feel like shit. I feel like a sexual harasser/incel and given that we are friends with the same people, I know it will be very awkward. It’s hard to deal with the fact that someone who liked you know actively despises you.