Me (35) Her (35)

Hello, first post here. I’m looking for advice and/or insight from anyone who has experienced a similar problem.

I recently (about 1 month now) started dating an amazing woman. She and I are incredibly compatible personality wise, and both have goals in like that align. We have both said that we can easily see ourselves together long term.

We talked about our likes/dislikes sexually speaking, and have found that they mostly seem to align. We may have rushed to having sex with each other since we did after a week of knowing each other, but so far, we really haven’t gotten things to click in bed.

We are very open with each other and have been very honest in our agreement that the sex isn’t great. We both agree that sex is very important in a healthy relationship, and have said usually at this point, we would have chalked things up as we’re just not compatible.

However, we also both agree that we really like each other and want to keep trying if there’s a chance we can get things right in bed.

As it stands now, she’s going out of town for the next week. We saw each other last night and this morning before she left and again were frustrated by the sex we had. We had a long talk about how we know we can be great friends, and how we’re both pretty close to deciding on friendship. But we also decided not to give up and see how things go when she gets home next week.

Does anyone have some advice or experience with a situation like this? Looking for insight on overcoming early sexual compatibility issues.

Thanks!