I (21f) have been with my boyfriend (24m) for almost 2 years now. He is an amazing person, he’s extremely thoughtful and caring and wants to be with me all the time. At the beginning of our relationship, I loved being with him and we started spending all our time together. We had points where it was really rocky and would fight all the time as well, however, and the relationship almost ended multiple times in the first year. Now, we’ve ended up having to live together due to his house being remodeled and we live separately now but we got through living together just fine and were closer because of it. I am extremely attached to him I miss him when I go more than a day without seeing him and I know I love him but it feels like we’re halfway a married couple, and halfway in completely different parts of life.

He works a full time business job and I am in college. He moved here from out of state so he doesn’t have very many friends and I have a ton because of college. This is actually a point of contention in our relationship because he never has friends to hang out with so he’ll get upset when I choose my friends over him. He feels alone and he also feels that he can’t relate to my friends so he doesn’t like to hang out with them himself usually. I always told myself this didn’t matter because I am graduating this year and all my college friends will move and at the end of the day it will be just us again and we can make our own friends. However, I’m graduating and I think that I want to move back to my home state which is across the country. So the time is coming for us to have a conversation about whether he would be willing to move with me. But I can’t stop thinking about that idea that he might not be the one for me. I love him and I think he’s a great guy but I don’t feel like we have enough meaningful conversations and I don’t feel like the best version of myself around him. He’s more extroverted than I am and he says a lot more out there things and I do so I find myself feeling like I’m constantly having to listen to him when he’s around my family or friends because I’m worried about what he’s going to say even though I shouldn’t be.

There’s nothing wrong in our relationship I just don’t know if we’re meant to be together long term. I don’t have to start thinking about moving until next spring and I don’t know if I should wait to have this kind of conversation with him until it’s serious that I may be leaving or if I should ask him now if he sees us together long term. Has anyone else been in a situation where they’re with someone great in many ways but you don’t know if you see a future? I’m still super young but about to make a huge decision about moving that may involve him coming and I don’t want to regret it. I apologize if this made no sense I’m just getting my thoughts out.