You are 100 percent right. Thank you I really really appreciate your input / guidance 🙌🏽

I am thinking of ending it to be honest and brining it up with her. Because I cannot be with someone constantly in the back of my mind thinking if she is telling me the truth or lying through the skin of her teeth. She has always told me to be honest and we come first and she is huge on respect and putting your partner first and sticking up for you partner. But what she did totally questions everything she was telling me. Which makes me question why is she with me.

Yep it’s sad but unfortunately that’s the case

I understand exactly what you are saying. And don’t worry it is in the back of my mind without a doubt. Because it doesn’t make sense if it’s only the paperwork you need why do you need to lie about catching up there is more to this without a doubt.

I agree there will be times to meet and if she was upfront about it I wouldn’t have an issue. The issue is she lied about it and was being deceitful so my mind is now thinking what else is she lying about.

Technically yes you are correct that is still her husband.

I agree with you I am being insecure 100 percent, because the way they split doesn’t make sense to me and that she breaks down crying saying she feels bad about the whole situation and it’s been really hard for her. If she came to me and said I need to meet up with him to sign some documents or talk about finances I would totally understand and not have a problem with it. She doesn’t have any kids. The problem I have is her premeditating lying about her catch up then following through with the lie and trying to deflect after being caught out.

She said that the only thing left is to sign the divorce papers, that’s all.

Because she breaks down when speaking about her split and she feels bad that she ended it, as at the time his mum past away and there was nothing it really ended over. It ended because they grew apart and he didn’t put effort in to change that.

I totally agree trust goes both ways. I obviously do not trust her as I wouldn’t have gone through her messages. Regarding being jealous and possessive I am truely the opposite and have never been jealous of her ex or other people. We had conversations and I told her I am cool with her keeping in contact with her ex and understand she has to keep an amicable relationship.

I’m not accepting it, it isn’t on.

I understand exactly what you are saying. And don’t worry it is in the back of my mind without a doubt. Because it doesn’t make sense if it’s only the paperwork you need why do you need to lie about catching up there is more to this without a doubt.

It isn’t a reason to trust her, however I got a gut instinct which didn’t sit right with me. It all didn’t add up what she was saying. Hence why I was suspicious and I knew there was more to it and I wasn’t been told the truth

So apparently she submitted the divorce papers and then they retracted them to give it another shot. And apparently in Australia you have to wait to re submit the divorce papers.

Thanks for your input I appreciate it

Yep I am part to blame. I just had a gut instinct that something wasn’t right and when I ask she said no no it will all be over soon and that she only takes his calls to keep amicable.

Yes I think I need to do some investigations regarding divorce as I do not know or ever been exposed to the process or how it works.

That’s okay. And that was why I was always open to prevent this from happening as I knew there was going to still be communication between her and her ex (which I’m okay with to sort out / finalise things). And it was quite funny because she said if the shoe was on the other foot she said she would have not been okay with it.

That’s what I’m worried about if she can lie about this and go behind my back what else can she do. Especially when things get hard or things really start testing our relationship what will she do.

Yes well apparently she submitted the divorce papers and then retracted them to give it another shot with him. In Australia apparently there is a certain period of time to be able to submit them again.