So my parents paid for a giant vacation house in Florida for all of us and my aunt. The only person who’s been on a vacation in years is my oldest sister in law, who went to Florida two weeks ago, alone. Despite the fact it was the week of my grandfathers funeral she did not attend. They have four children and I had 3 out of four in my care for half the week she was gone.

Any time we’ve gone to Florida as a family I always end up watching their kids. My middle brother and his wife have too before they had a kid of their own.

The issue- is the layout of the house is set up like this- There are 3 bed rooms on the first floor, second floor has two bedrooms, which includes a giant kids room for all the older kids, it has bunk beds and arcade area. Lastly the third floor is a suite room w kitchenette .

I have the two smallest kids. 3 in total. The two youngest are babies. I also have pulmonary hypertension and heart failure. Steps are not a good fit for me because of 1. Babies and 2. Heart. I also have nitroglycerin and other meds we keep in a lock box but realistically curious bigger kids could open. (I have a rare disease that affects my heart)

The argument - so Last night everyone informs me I have to stay on the floor with all my kids and all of their children. I say absolutely not. It’s dangerous and regardless of the stated expectation it will result in me being a live in babysitter because Myself and my husband are the only adults on that floor . My sister in law then asks me in front of her kids (whom I love and spoil and constantly dote on ) what is it that you don’t like my kids? Is that why you don’t want that floor? So I get pissed. Especially since her children, are standing RIGHT THERE. Confused and upset and their moms question. They are four. It was gaslighting and manipulative comment. So I say fuck y’all I’m out . And myself and my husband leave.

Later I text them that they don’t get to just decide my room. Is it that they don’t like their own kids? Or what? Referencing that being said to me. I say this in a text to my brothers. Then without a response from either - both sister in laws jump in calling me and my husband spoiled unappreciative babies who are ruining the trip and hurting my moms feelings .

so I snapped . I maybe should not have but I respond and say “ I’m done with you guys . None of you all wanted that floor you dumped it on me without consulting me and I’m not having the bullshit. If we go don’t speak to us- I literally want nothing to do with you guys. “

They have done this to me historically multiple times. the implication I am somehow a horrible human because I don’t enjoy being told where I have to go when they all get the rooms they pick , putting me at a disadvantage both physically, and using me as a babysitter , then to imply I don’t like my nephews and niece in front of them because I won’t do as they say is crazy to me. Ultimately my middle brother and his wife said they would stay on that floor but commented it was a sacrifice since I was being so immature. To which I ask, if it’s no big deal and I am overreacting, then why is it a sacrifice? I eventually blocked them. I don’t know how to fix the situation and I don’t know if I’m even willing too. Any advice would be appreciated

Here’s some texts from how I have previously been spoken too when I have watched their kids (I love them to come over this is only to show how comfortable they have gotten talking to me shitty in regards to their kids. ) I also work outside the home full time and had on this day. I sent my husband home from our daughters back to school bash so that he could bring the kids earlier. His wife was in Florida alone. I was helping with two of the four kids . The previous day I had his oldest overnight as well.

https://imgur.com/gallery/ywLRjCF

Edited for clarity: My sister in law and brother do not believe that myself and my husband being made to stay on the “kids” floor with mostly their children is babysitting. I believe because of past experiences, including our last family vacation where I had watched their children and by simply being the only adults on that entire floor we would automatically be the “go to” for all of the kids needs . This is not their fault as children. They should go to the adult in closest proximity to them but this should be their parents and not me or my husband