Wife (34f) and I (35m) dated for two years, married for two now. We are both inherently non-monogamous people, and have struggled for the first 30 years of our lives trying to maintain monogamous relationships to various degrees of failure.

When we met, it was literally the most liberating thing either of us have ever experienced. For the first time in our lives, we didn't need to hide, deny, or pretend we are who we really are. It's so incredibly freeing to finally be able to come out of the closet of monogamy and openly admit our sexual proclivities and live as who we truly are in public.

Most of our friends are super supportive because they see how much happier we both are, and how much we complement each other. In fact, this past weekend, I went to visit a potential lover out of state, she's going through a very rough divorce from an alcoholic and physically abusive husband, and I was able to have a great experience connecting with her on deeper levels, help out with her kids, and generally just being a Good Guy Greg to her family to help her through this rough spot. My wife also had fun by inviting one of her boyfriends to come do a weekend long bdsm session (she's into being hurt, I'm not into hurting people).

I think our lives are infinitely better than when we had to deal with jealousies and artificial boundaries on love and affection. We have so much more to choose from and so much more potential to experience awesome experiences.

With the exception of when strangers find out about our relationship, and ask questions such as, "if you aren't staying monogamous, why even get married? How can you say you love someone when you let them fuck whoever they want?"

I just don't get it, do these people really think that love, mutual support, and building a home together are all just... Irrelevant perks of the true measure of a relationship - how long you can hold off on fucking someone else.

Don't know, it feels super bad when it happens. Wish people could just be happy for us...

The advice I'm seeking is this: how do I deal with these people? Just cut them out of our lives? Learn to have thicker skin?

TL;DR Wife and I have a great open marriage, but we feel judged and belittled when we get, well, judged and belittled...