My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years since we met when we were in high school. Our relationship has had a lot of ups and downs due to insecurity, me feeling controlled in the past, low self-esteem, but we’ve overcome a lot of issues and finally at a good place where we both feel stable.

However, I’m noticing that I am slowly losing attraction for my boyfriend and feeling lonely because I can’t have conversations with him about topics I find interesting. He loves sports and can talk nonstop about anything related to sports news, while I’m more of a bookworm that loves to read and talk about history, science, politics, philosophy, watch documentaries and just go on random tangents about life. We were also both raised as Christians but his family is more traditional/conservative while I’m more open-minded about exploring other worldviews (I’m big on existentialism). I started to like sports too because it’s what he likes, but sometimes when I do share about topics I care about or want to have a deep conversation with him, his response is usually just “Oh okay, that’s cool” instead of diving into conversation.

I know my concern might seem shallow or irrational and I hate myself for feeling like this when he hasn’t done anything wrong. He’s really good to my family and my younger brothers and they love him, so I hate feeling like I would disappoint them if they knew how I felt. I know he’s really busy with work and other life commitments too so he may just be too tired most of the time to dive into conversations about random things. I wanted to share out of curiosity if anyone else felt that way in their relationship. If so, what did you do to cope or talk with your partner? I would love to hear your insight.