As y’all know, the housing/rental market is hell right now. The moment something within our price which fits our needs goes on the market, it’s almost immediately unavailable again.

We’ve been looking for almost three months and have had some great opportunities to be the first to apply after seeing a place that’s exactly what we need, but, every time, she’s just “not feeling it.” We even applied for one place that was VERY nice, new, perfect. A rare gem! I was so excited!

It took a week for the applications to get approved, and all we needed to do was make a deposit. We had a long talk on the phone about it, and she was even sitting in the apartment complex looking around when she decided she “just didn’t like it.” She warned me that she’s hard to house hunt with, but holy fucking shit dude I’m going crazy.

She’s looked at apartment complexes with fancy amenities like a full gym, pool, etc way outside our price range and got excited, but we both agreed it’s way too much money. She suggested we invite a whole ass dude we barely know to be a roommate so we can afford a nicer place, even though I have told her many times I don’t want to live with men anymore after my current situation with five male roommates. No offense, guys, but y’all can be rancid.

I have never had success living with random people I barely know because of how people will agree to be clean and help with chores then just not do it and act like I’m a nag for asking them to. I only agreed to this because we’re friends, she comes over all the time and has shown how much she needs cleanliness and respects my boundaries. She’s shown naturally that she would be a good roommate, and I’ve been able to see that over time.

Lastly, I’ve lived with my bf for 3 yrs, and we recently broke up. Still living together is taking a toll on both of our mental health, so I need to move out ASAP. I really want to tell her to fucking deal with it and be grateful we’re able to find a place at all with the way things are. It’s been a huge celebration to even get the chance to apply for a place, so to back out for literally no reason is infuriating.

Any advice is appreciated. Thank you for reading this far.

TL;DR: My roommate backs out of every rental opportunity we get, even when it checks all the boxes. I live with my ex and need to move out ASAP, but it feels like she’ll never decide on something at this point. Advice? How can so tell her to suck it up without hurting her feelings?