Warning: Long post

I [21M] and my friend [21M] travelled to another country together to explore. It isn’t my first time here, but it is his.

Backstory: he is a kiss less virgin (important) and has never had any luck getting a girl. He’s a very kind and caring person, but has a strange personality, making constant sexual remarks/jokes. My other friends and I have gotten use to it and treat it like normal, but for people that don’t know him personally it can make them very uncomfortable. He is also the “um…actually” guy in real life. While this can be fun because he knows a lot of facts, it can get annoying when he constantly disagrees with things you say.

I recently tried tinder here and have been getting non stop matches. (I had a glow-up: new clothes, hairstyle, I’m lean muscular). I’ve also discovered that I may be gay. I matched with a guy and we hit it off. I asked him if it was ok if I went on a date with him and for him to stay at the hotel or do whatever. He said it was and I told him I’ll be back pretty late. I met up with him around 10:30PM and got back around 5:00AM. He contacted me at 12:00AM telling me he is going to sleep and his ringer was on if I need anything, which was very sweet. I told him everything was great.

When I got back, I slept around 2 hours and we checked out of our hotel with plenty of time to spare. That same day we had to catch a domestic flight, and he is the type to arrive overtly early (we had 2 hours of time before we boarded). He let me know that he was really upset and hadn’t slept at all because he was afraid that maybe I could have been date-raped, gotten drunk (I get drunk very easily), etc. He then told me that I should be contacting him to let me know if I’m ok.

I understand that I was out very late and we are in a foreign country (him not me). We also had to check out of the hotel and catch a flight in the evening. I understand where he can be worried, but staying up all night and telling me I should be contacting him while I’m on a date… I’m not sure.

He has been making me a bit uncomfortable lately, showing physical signs of emotionless, not talking. Maybe because he thinks I’m talking on tinder all day? I have been assuming it’s just because he is tired.

When he told me about how upset he was, I didn’t want to be confrontational and immediately apologized for making him feel that way and told him I’d make sure he was in the loop. After this he cheered up and was much more talkative with a positive tone.

This is making me question the type of person he actually is, because I’ve just known him to be a kind person. The flip of a switch from that to his normal kind self was weird.

Also, my other friend who was in close connection with him at their university let the rest of our friend group know that a lot of the stories and experiences he had there were exaggerated and mostly untrue, but I didn’t hold it as fact because I wasn’t there.

May I ask your opinion?