23m and I have been dating my current girlfriend 23f for over 5 years. We have talked a lot about our future and wanting to create a life together. We currently live together after graduating college and are both working high demanding jobs, so there isn't much time for us to do things outside of the house and each other.

The only major issue we have ever had is extended periods of no sex, yes I know it seems stupid but we are 23 and what is the future going to be if this is the current. The problem kinda began some time ago, every time I would try to initiate she would always shut it down. The usual excuses about being tired, not in the mood, or doesn't feel good, I', very aware that these are 100% normal and okay with it. But it came to a point where now I have trouble initiating anything because I always get turned away. It got to the point where if lucky it would be once every other month.

I have talked to her about it, at first, she thought it was her BC and switched but that didn't change anything, she also said it was cause she felt bad about herself. Which again is completely ok and I understand it, but then the conversation stops since I can't say anything.

I am slowly starting to feel like I am missing out on life and start to get annoyed really easily with her even though I enjoy her company. I have started to feel like this is making me lose the feelings I have for her. And have begun to think more and more about how much there is in the world.

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Essentially, I have talked and envisioned a future with her that I do want. But am afraid since part of the relationship that is important is hardly there. I have considered ending it but it would truly devastate her and not sure what I would even do.

Please put some input, I want to see what people that have more life experience take it as. I can provide more information if needed, I am already going on for a while.

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Thank you all,