Hey all,

This guy (we’ll call him Sam) and I have been friends for about 2.5 years since starting college. Recently I’d say we’ve gotten super close since March.

The thing is, I know that he’s not a mind reader and I know I should just be upfront and ask, but I need to know how to go about it while being casual and not ruining the friendship if he’s not into me like that.

We see each other 1:1 at least once a week. We don’t have classes/work together or anything like that so it’s always a conscious effort on both sides to see each other. When we hang we’ll usually go to the movies and he’ll always pick me up. Other times we’ll hang at his place and smoke/chill/whatever.

We both trust each other a lot and are always there for each other. I had to go to the hospital and he drove me himself and made sure I was okay. He also seems to be okay with me touching his shoulder when I’m laughing or talking (I tested it out). We were even in the car once and i forgot the context but he said “that’s because I like you”.

Recently we even went out to eat but it wasn’t an explicit date. And yesterday he casually mentioned that we should go bowling but I turned it down ugh. But we will be hanging at his place later this week and I’m thinking of trying to sit really close to him or something to see how he reacts?

I could kick myself for not having the balls to just come out and ask. I don’t want to ruin the friendship and am not sure I’d even want a relationship but I definitely want to test the waters.

TL;DR: how should I ask a guy friend out or show interest without making things weird?

Edit: and we talk on the phone for hours sometimes.