So not sure what to do now. My wife and I are not intimate, she just tolerates me and we "share" a house.... Feeling frustrated with my marriage we just seem to fight alot aka all the time. She just says she doesn't know when I stopped making it about a twosome . Been with each other for 10 years and we have a 3.5 year old son. I'm trying to improve myself and lose weight and be more attentive but she likes to say that I like to fight and play victim all the time... She even said maybe we should have 2 separate beds...... I'm in a bad head space and I can't think of much else but divorce.... But I always hold out hope that something will change even though I know I just irritate her.. she says I don't consult with her and communicate. But when I try to communicate it tend to fuck it up....she tells me you shouldn't have to try to be nice and try to love her. Even though I do love her.... Then all I'm told is I don't fight with other people or treat them like I treat her.... Which for the record I cook, clean, try to be supportive , make sure my son is taken care of especially on stressful days so she's not stuck with an issue. But I know I'm not always a good partner. I feel like a better father than husband most of the time now... I just feel lost...