I've been in a long distance relationship for 7 years, since I was 20. 27 now.

I love my boyfriend. I've seen him change so much and I've changed too. We've seen each other through our ups and downs, the fights, us getting better as people together. But now it seems like we're really going on separate paths.

I still care for him (love him?) but it feels like the love isn't really there anymore. We talk about our days, regular stuff. But it feels like I'm the one who's supporting him more than he supports me.

He doesn't say it, but I feel like he's a bit jealous of my aspirations. I tell him what I'm working towards and I have to ask him "what do you think about this?" to get a response. He says sorry but it doesn’t change. Meanwhile I ask him about what he's up to with enthusiasm. I actually care. A lot of time I feel like he doesn’t care about how things are going with me. Even when I change the subject, he's the same.

He says he supports me, he tells me he loves me, but I don't really feel it from him. He's always saying it but it just feels bland. It just feels like we're both going through the motions, or maybe me. We aren't even intimate anymore and I find myself having to ask him, which when we do it he seems into it enough although he doesn’t ask from me to do it (this is all virtual or over the phone). This was Opposite even just a couple of years ago. If I never ask he never brings it up.

We still have fun and laugh about things, TV shows, tiktoks, whatever. But when it comes time to talk about things that are more serious like the books I'm working on, or my weight loss accomplishments, he's bland.

He was in a depressed state back before he left his profession, but now he's even told me he's doing a lot better. He feels like how he was before he was at the old profession, so not sad, but just bland.

And yes, we see each other 2-3 times a year but it just feel like the relationship has gone down since we've met... what do you think? I'm not sure what to do.