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Me (26F) and the guy (M26) are seeing each other for about 2 months at this point.
Necesarry background: I'm in a process of healing from previous relationships and trauma from childhood (emotianally abusive father) and for that I go to therapy. I haven't been in a realtionship for 3 years.
I started dating this guy about 2 months ago. I was amazed by him from the first date, firstly he's really attractive and secondly we are really similar in many ways that matter. He constantly shows me how he cares, actually listens to me and to this point was pretty much my dream partner. Mainly I for once really enjoyed that we actually talk about our issues.
Yesterday after 2 great days together the topic of previous partners was brought up and also the bad things we did in realtionships. He confesed that during his last relationship (which ended about 2 months before we started dating) he was cheating. He said he was bored, there was lack of communication and understanding etc. But he also said he was aware of the fact it always has been easy for him cause he knows he's handsome and he loved the "chase" or whatever.
I was taken back to say the least. We talked about it more and he said he wanted to be honest and for me not think that he's just a perfect person and he's done some mistakes. I'm trying to be openminded about everything but also aware of the fact, that my previous trauma messed up my understanding of how good relationships should look like. I really like him and am aware of the fact, the people are not perfect and all of us made mistakes in our relationships. I know this a massive red flag, but he also has like 90 % of green ones that I really appreciate...
So my question is, how to go from there? Can cheaters turn good? Is there any hope this can turn to a good relationship? Or should I end it now before we get serious?
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