Hello my name is Isaac I am a 27 year old male. I recently ended a relationship and just wanted some opinions on the matter.
First things first, a little about me and how our relationship started. I was previously married and in the Army, I got out March 2020, then my divorce followed shortly after in July 2021. I had also gotten a DWI in December 2020. After my DWI charge I was sent into Veterans Court, but this took some time, and I didn't start till September 2021, since the court systems do not operate that quickly. I have been sober ever since I started this program, and I am currently still attending with 180  days sober.
I first started talking to this woman through a dating site, I don't remember which one, I was an emotional wreck at the time. In August 2021. Her name is Jamie and she is 24 going to be 25 this spring. I noticed right away that she had a heart of gold and that I really liked her. I was worried though, that my drinking habits would definitely ruin things with her. So it was a back and forth of a message or two every other day or week. After my Veterans Program started in September, I was finally sober after 6 years and started to have money in my pockets again. A little bit of an identity crisis too. This led me to buying a truck and the real beginning of our relationship. She would often come over while I was working on the truck and we'd talk and get to know each other better. We would have a fire, roast some hotdogs and marshmallows, talking about our lives, laughing till we cried and regretting staying up till 5 in the morning. I have never met someone with such a genuine quality to just spend time talking with one another. She was also the second woman I spent time with that I was sober for, out of 8 relationships. Our relationship continued through the holidays and into the current date. With a total of about 5 months. 
 Sounds perfect right? Well.....I am spending a lot of time dancing like a puppet for the court and working on myself and identity. I spend most of my day with people from the court. It's kinda like being on a free range jail sentence. I am drug tested 6 times a week. I attended 4 therapy sessions a week. I attended Court bi-weekly. I have to report to 3 different people in the system everyday, once in the morning and again in the evening. With some additional homework from the therapy. Plus working a job and so on...
 Anyway this woman was perfect, like no joke, wife material 100%. She had her faults don't get me wrong but the good definitely out weighed the bad. Today April 5th 2021 I decided to end the relationship. It wasn't because of how she looked, her personality, or anything of that nature. I decided to end it because I don't believe I have the time for a relationship amidst my own life mess. I feel awful about it. I didn't fight with her to end it and she was trying to understand but I know it really hurt her. Again heart of gold, and she told me she thinks I'm not giving it a chance to ride out the tough times together. She said she wanted to grow together, rather than waiting for me to fix myself and situation to just have the trophy at the end. I understand, like I wouldn't ask anyone to wait for me that's just wrong, but I am changing a lot and spending a good majority of my time on myself, work and court. I didn't think It was right to ask her to be in my life when I can't give her the time and attention she deserves. She told me that I was giving up too soon. She said that it felt like she didn't even matter to me. She also stated that she really didn't want me to go and that we could find a way to make it work as long as we made better effort to communicate and spend some time together. Basically whenever I have free time. Also that if two people want to make it work then we can work it out no matter what......
 After I finish the court program successfully, which should be a year from now in 2023, most of my time will be freed up and I will have a lot more time that isn't being spent on court. I thought it would then be appropriate to spend the time on someone else. Instead of having them as a side show. I don't really know, because I can't predict the future accurately, but I do know I cared very much for her and she did as well. 
 For the questions that I'd like to hear some opinions on. Did I do the right thing? Do you think we could have made it work? Was either of us being irrational? What would you have done in this situation? 
All comments and opinions greatly appreciated since this is such a long story. If you got this far thank you.