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TL;DR: Should me and my wife seek marriage counseling or should it wait till we get our own home.

My wife and I ahev been married for over a year now (August 1st) and she has only recently felt comfortable being my wife and wanted her name fully changed. My wife had always had her reservations of getting married in general, but had a few more with me because she wasn't very liked by my family. Her and my mother have had pretty similar experiences and have come out of all there situations with different viewpoints causing them to not get along very often. We had spending problems and that stunted us from being able to get our own place so we had been living with my mother and father (In a semi- rent to own agreement [all the rent we pay to them gets put into an account to be used when we purchase our own house]) and that has been helpful only in that we have a roof over our heads. My Father is a lot more kind and understanding that he can only guide me and feels that he has done the best he can and is quite kind to my wife, but my mother feels like I have made a huge mistake marrying my wife. My wife is not the person that my mother wants for me (not that that matters much to me) in everything from here spiritual beliefs to her political beliefs and even to the way she looks. (It honestly has me passed off) As such it's been hard living here with them not being able to have our own space to love and grow. On top of that, she has such extreme jealousy that some of the things that I have to do in my religion, she doesn't want me to do because she wouldn't be the one doing it with me. She also won't join my religion and has extreme hatred towards the over arching belief, so it isn't a solutions of her being there and doing it with me. I understand that a new place is in order, but more and more lately I feel like my wife has been either exceedingly aggressive or emotional (depending on the time) and it has been very exhausting. I love her deeply and at time have felt that I can do this, but I don't want to divorce her and leave her with no place to live (my mother has told me that if I ever did get divorced that she would have no qualms about me moving back in[ that just sounds so ****** up]) and so I only started to think about btinging upmarriage counseling, but I know she doesn't want to do any type of personal counseling, so I don't know how she would feel about marriage counseling. I just don't know if I should be waiting on this hoping that things get better and if they don't she ends up with a house and half or more of the stuff or to tell her we need counseling now and me ending up getting further pressure from my mother to leave her and/or her being so unhappy from having to take all of that that she leaves me anyway. Thank you to all who do respond.

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